Selling Sexy
For most women, doing your hair and makeup is a daily ritual, perfecting the way we look to gain confidence. Elissa Grant is no different, except in her case it's also preparation for taking her clothes off in front of strangers.
For almost a year, the pretty brunette primped before getting onstage to strip. Between performances she touched up her makeup and hair, but, most importantly, she practiced a sincere and flirty smile.
Her smile is one attribute this woman believes characterizes her as sexy. And standing out as sexy when you share a stage with dozens of hot women is the ultimate goal.
Elissa believes it's not just looking gorgeous that makes a woman sexy; it comes down to a self esteem.
"Being sexy is all about feeling sexy," says Elissa, "And confidence is a very big factor in feeling sexy."
She's seen strippers who weren't the prettiest girls, but still received a lot of attention because they carried themselves with confidence. A woman doesn't have to spend hours in front of a mirror; with self-assurance, she can wear anything and still be incredibly alluring.
During her year stripping, Elissa learned that speaking her mind was just as sexy, and many times more so, than simply looking hot. Elissa finds the best way to seduce a man is to be confident enough to look him in the eyes and hold the stare because it's a personal way to draw him in.
Sexy Girl
[s]The owner of a Halifax business providing sex-product party bookings completely agrees. Rachel Dodds, creator of Sexy Girl, says sexiness comes from within.
"It doesn't matter what society perceives as what is sexy...a person's personality and confidence is what makes them sexy," says Rachel. "It's great when women realize that they don't have to rely on another person, whether it's a man or woman, to make them feel sexy or to sexually gratify them."
What Do Men Think is Sexy?
In a recent survey of men, sixty percent named a woman's confidence as the main contributing factor toward her sexy status.
Dave MacEachern, a 29-year-old Halifax schoolteacher, wants women to play more offence when they're interested in a man. A seductive woman takes control of the situation, not being afraid to show her feelings by making the first move.
Though many lads say a lady playing hard to get turns them on, the majority believed a woman who exhibits confidence in her body and mind is the ultimate seduction.
"If you're a seductress, then you have to take charge," says Blair Young, a recent Dalhousie University graduate. "This implies confidence and assertiveness."
Spontaneity is Sexy
Relationships often fall into routine and become boring. Trying something new can turn the heat back on in the bedroom. And spontaneity is a great way to change things up.
"Getting dirty out of the blue, in an unexpected place or situation is a sure-fire way to get me going," says Blair. "Just the simple act of instigating a sexual encounter in a random place is cool... It's risky, precarious, bold and dangerous."
While she admits that bringing something new into the bedroom – be it massage oil, lubricant, vibrators, or new sexual positions – can add spice to a person's sex life, in her experience with Sexy Girl, Rachel has found that successful seduction comes down to a woman's confidence and comfort level with her own sexuality. She says that having the trust to simply communicate how you feel and what you want is extremely sexy.